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Choice Means Choice
January 22, 2006
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There are very few subjects that truly divide people, but the subject of abortion is one of them. I will be upfront with the matter right now. I am pro-choice. If you aren't, you probably don't want to read any further. I am not going to debate the matter with you and you are not going to change my mind.

There are a number of reasons I am pro-choice. The first one being that choice means choice. It means you can choose whether or not to have an abortion. If you are against it, that is your choice. By having this choice open, it gives women the option. Freedom means choice. By having the right to choose, we are expressing the freedom we have over our bodies.

When this choice wasn't available, women still had abortions. Whether they did this by taking herbs that forced miscarriage or by visiting back alley doctors, women still had them. The consequences of the choice being unavailable was often severe. Never again should 15 year old girls have to suffer an unwanted pregnancy. Never again should a woman have to sufer the unclean back-alley clinic. There is no reason for it. For many women, abortion is one of the few realistic options available.

A woman's reproductive rights are as essential to their well-being as their suffrage. There was a time when condoms were illegal. When any form of birth control was illegal. We have come a long way since then, but until people recognize the fact that a woman's body is her domain and no one elses, a woman will be seen as inferior in the world.

In America, there is a separation of Church and State, so banning a medical procedure based on religious views simply should not be done. This goes for any procedure, not simply abortion.

I am doing a poor job at explaining my views on the matter and I know it. The problem is, I have such strong views on the subject, that it is hard for me to express them clearly. For me, the right to have an abortion is fundamental as any right to choose. To have the option open is what matters.

In my mind, it doesn't matter who is having the procedure done. A woman with three children, a 16 year old girl who doesn't want to fuck up the rest of her life, a woman who simply isn't ready to commit to the life long responsibility of having a child... it is a heavy decision, but for many it is the only decision they can see themselves living with. Before Roe v. Wade, countless women killed themselves rather than have their child. Other went to the back alley clinics to have a bent coat hanger rammed into their uterus.

Several years ago, I became pregnant. My husband and I were not ready to have a child. I was still in school and we were poor. Dirt ass poor. Instead of having the child, I had an abortion. I could not bring a child into the world when I knew I didn't have the capacity to care for it. I do not regret my decision and I never will. Because I made the decision I did, I now have a good job where I am contributing to the world. if I had a child now, it would be very hard for me to have the job I do due to my work schedule.

I had a choice to make and I made it. I do not know what I would have done if I hadn't had the choice to make. My life would be ruined and I suspect I would be little better than trailer trash right now. I would be a drain on society rather than a member of it. I suspect my marriage would have fallen apart because of it. Also, i don't want children. My mother is a bitter woman because she had to give up her education when she became pregnant with me. The resentment becomes apparant. No child should have to live with that feeling thrust upon them.

Stand up for your right. Say no to coathangers and the suppression of reproductive freedom.

And remember, choice means choosing. By having the choice available, you can choose to go either way based on your own sense of morality.

Posted by Utopia at January 22, 2006 10:25 PM

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i agree.

Posted by: Vesper at January 22, 2006 11:04 PM



I am Mormon,abortion for my chruch is only viewed as "okay" in situtions of rape or if the mother's health in in danger. For the most part I agree with this. However, as a women I believe in the right to choose what is best for me and my body.That's why we have free will.

Posted by: katkat at January 22, 2006 11:34 PM



I believe in the women's right to choose. I don't let my religion change that, I'm Catholic.

Posted by: Andrea at January 23, 2006 06:09 AM



I sat for quite a while thinking what to comment on this post. I knew only that I wanted too, not what I wanted to say. For my own personal reasons I have very, very strong views on abortion - although my view is certainly pro-choice, it is something I would never, ever do. But I would never look down on anyone who did, and would support them all the way - as you say, choice means choice.

Posted by: Seraphim at January 23, 2006 06:27 AM



As a man I don't feel it's my place to tell any woman what to do or not to do with her body. The only thing that irritates me about unwanted pregnancy is the fact that the father has absolutely no say in the matter, legally. If the woman wants the child, she's going to have it. If she doesn't, she won't. It doesn't matter if the man wants it or not, she'll do what she wants. I understand that he made the choice to engage in sex and should live with the consequences, but not all unintentional pregnancies are caused by failed birth control.

Anyway, I'm pro choice. And I've been a responsible adult and taken steps to insure that I'll never father children, since I never want them.

Posted by: monogodo at January 23, 2006 11:51 AM



Monogodo - Something that has always annoyed me is the fact that a woman cannot get her tubes tied without having either 3 children or being over the age of 40. No Doctor will perform the surgury on a woman without those criteria in place. However, a man can get a vasectomy any time he chooses.

As women, we still don't have rights over our own body, yet men do. The double standard is preposterous and angering. Right now, I do not have the choice to ensure not getting pregnant. Apparently I don't have that right.

Everyone - Thank you for your support even if you don't agree with my view/opinion. I was very nervous writing this entry and I know it didn't come out right because of that. There was so much I wanted to say and it just didn't come out right.

Posted by: Utopia at January 23, 2006 04:37 PM



Wow, I didn't know you couldn't get your tubes tied unless one of those conditions were met. That's f'd up. I got my vasectomy at the age of 35, and have never fathered a child (to my knowledge). My wife has also never been pregnant, let alone had a child. The urologist had no problem snipping me, although he was a dick about it. He was totally dismissive to my wife - he basically kicked her out of the room before he started the procedure. And he all but rolled his eyes whenever she asked a question.

Posted by: monogodo at January 23, 2006 05:04 PM



Choice means choice and as a twenty year old I know what it is like to have that first preliminary pregnancy scare because no birth control is 100%. I am never going to try to convince anyone that abortion is right and that is why it should be a CHOICE. I support everyone to have their own feelings and beliefs, but not when those who vehemetly disagree with me try to push their beliefs onto me. Especially when it's some seventy year old white, christian, male, senator who would never have an unwanted preganacy or be in that situation in the first place. How freaking convienient.

Posted by: AreMoore at March 24, 2006 11:12 AM


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