"Well I didn't want her to have to come over here if he was just asleep." "She will understand, he needs to be comfortable more than anything." "He was up from 2am til this morning." "I talked to him the other day, it sounds like he is getting more confused, was he up because he was in pain or because he was confused." "He is more confused, even the Hospice personnel say so. I will be honest with you... he isn't able to walk anymore... I just don't want anyone to think I am not taking good care of him." "Pam, I have been over there, I have seen how you take care of him and we have known that he was losing his ability to walk for some time." "Yes, but I am worried that your uncles will be suprised by how he looks now and blame me, he has really deteriorated." "Pam, we understand what happens when someone is in this situation, the fact that Hospice is involved says a lot, and from my own observations, it is my opinion that the drug peddling-using idiots in florida can keep their mouth to themselves if they have something to say about anything about his care after not being involved in it... and furthermore he has been there for years and has been fine... this is just what happens in this circumstance." "Well I just don't want them to think we aren't doing things for him." "Pam, just do what he asks you to do and what he needs and don't worry about what the others will or won't say... deal with it if it comes up, if it even does."

We have Tony coming tomorrow with John. Hopefully there will be no issues. I dislike holiday stress on top of this. *shudder*

Relate the conversation above with a conversation mother had with her brother Christopher (one of the aforementioned):

Chris: "Well, I guess the rumors about Dad having cancers are true."

Erm... first of all... why make a rumor about something like that. second... why didnt your ass call us a month ago when we were telling people what we had been told AND the fact that Hospice has been coming in. Yeah we make all this shit up just to put a hamper in your daily activities... god knows we wouldnt want to waste your time from drinking and other activities unmentionable. Ass.

I called my cousin in Florida this week to let her know. Again, she hadn't been told by her own father, which I figured is what was going to happen. I am glad i told her, there is nothing worse than the suprise passing away call. I don't know what the hell those people down there are thinking. Wait... they don't.